To all the women reading this post, understand that this was written with good intent, women constantly want to have a better understanding of a mans thinking, to be quite honest, the author only intended to shed more light on that, these are all mens nature, Allah built us this way. Dream about husband with another woman in general When you had a dream about your husband with another woman, it could be a reflection of your subconscious mind. Youre better off coming to terms with this and accepting it than having false, purile notions about men.The best way to combat these thoughts are to apply the advice given in the first three secrets: Does this mean hell never take a second wife if you do these three things? Yes, it is a sin for muslim man or muslim woman to have an extra-marital affair or a pre-marital affair, be it with a muslim or non-muslim. Let's get this right out into the open.Some women might think men are narrow-minded brutes for this, but it's the truth.Men desire sex. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had 2 wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. So stop being childish and open your eyes . This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. For example even your own children 2,3,4 tell me can you give them all the same attention love money this that even if you really wanted to its impossible. Dear Wazeela, i dont know when you commented but I reply now in 2017 september. decreed jealousy for women and jihad for men, so whoever bears that with I know, this one may be kinda hard to swallow. Love or Respect: Which Do You Prefer?. A Muslim mans guide is the Prophet peace be upon him. this young man will treat you as nicely after marriage as he does now? My husband is Muslim and as such he is allowed to marry a maximum of 4 women (If he fulfills the stringent obligations that come with marrying multiple wives) so before we married this was discussed. I thought I wanted to convert but to see this is how men really think? You dont understand it fully and you really should not say such things because you are actually saying that you ar disgusted with Allah! Oh Dear how I understand you, my ex boyfriend, we were together for 5 years and hes Muslim. You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. I want to marry and be in halal relationship but looks like men only looking for friendship with benefits. dont make up hadiths urself. Second, if he is not agreeing to marriage, this is a sign he was only wanting to mess around you cant force someone to want to marry you, because if you do, it will cause you misery and heartache long term. After all, as Muslims, we SUBMIT our will to ALLAAHs. This article is a joke. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to marry more than one wife. 2. to ask Allah of all that is good for you according to HIM. InshaAllah Allah will reward you for all your patience and effort. Narrated from Aisha Radhiyallahu anhuma, If the Prophet Sallallahu alaihi wa Sallam is about to travel, then he draws among his wives; whichever of them is his part, he goes out with him. 3. I would say some of the sisters plz know the different between yr opinion and the prove of the hathis or the quran, what you think doesnt matter what matter is what allah say. Here is an explanation of one verse of the Quran. To put him back on track, just reduce your level of love to the minimum level which is your duty, and he will do everything to get you and that extra love and care back I dont mean sex only, by Love. (Abu Dawud). SAHIH INTERNATIONAL (interpretation of the meaning): Only those who are patient shall receive their reward in I guess this is life and we should always say Alhamdulliah. what I have noticed from the hadith When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. While a man is always ready to cause the rise of this ummah. Marriage, Polygamy, Marital relationships. Mohammad made the rules for his time for some purpose. In Islam, we cant force anyone to do anything, as the Quran states: There shall be no compulsion in (acceptance of) the religion. (Quran: Chapter 2, Verse 256), SubhanAllah beautiful article mashAllah..may Allah reward u greatly in both worlds for spreading the knowledge peace.xx, Number 4 is rubbish..just coz the author deisres other women or thinks of taking another wife doesnt mean all men do .. most normal men are actually content with one wife..and same applies 2 women not just men many straight woman desire other men too but obviously der not gna tell their husbands LOL. Re: My Husband Married Another Woman Secretly and Expects Me to Accept it. Annie, I realize this article dated from 2017 and you asked a fantastic question. However, in many Muslim cultures, men are raised to be stoic and tight-lipped. If Allah says to we, women, to sastify our husbands desire, will help him to attain that which is good if it is good, or divert it from When 1 or 2 months he lives with 2 nd wife I feel that I am not having any husband. iv) To give protection to a widow or any other woman who requires it. Allaah says Other women and couldnt wait to taste a man as well he told me about, that he desires men too. If the husband takes a second wife, the wife has a right to divorce him. This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says: So when you give him the following excuses: Know that your husband is going to go to sleep a little upset with you, even if he doesnt show it.And do this often enough, hes going to start resenting you. Bespectacled before it was cool, I. It may be that this i am also a muslim girl..we had physical relationship on one day.but still i am virgin.he said before that we can marry if our parents allows.but now he dont want to marry me as his parents dont allow him to do..but now they agree.but he is saying that let us go two ways..not to make the parents sad..,how can i marry other person without telling him and cheating. P.S Please keep open minds, do not try to scare one another with threats of you nearly left islam with your words. A husband needs to pay attention to this, especially if you have two or more wives. However, if the man wants to marry after the second, Islam limits in it. I just find out he have been with man to. Is this because you dont want to get blamed for something youve said? Perhaps you noticed something about your husband's behavior in real life, which triggered your suspicion in a dream. You have all the right to maintain your self respect and If he still marries another woman without your consent he is destroying your self respect. They are rather contradicting statements. Ds my true life I am leaving with Allahs mercy. 2.If this person really loves of a martyr. This hadeeth was classed as daeef (weak) by al-Albaani in The moment you hide it from your first wife means you lack the genuine reason. Your email address will not be published. Intention to worship and remember Allah taala. I used to cook food for them I did everything a wife should be doing. May Allah bless us with good husbands. I am happy I have a good understanding of Islam that I worship Allah. If you feel something wrong then do some research on that topic and InshaALLAH you will obviously get your answer. Try to investigate on him. Remember Allah only help those who help themselves. If If he sincerely tries to solve your problems and helps you in the best way he can. I let the whole world, my familly, anythung for his sake and I love him so much but sometimes he is totally different, cold, and acting bad because of little things. I have to agree with you 100% on that. I pray Allaah helps you and others in situations like yours. For some women, polygamy is a deal breaker no matter. However, men are not obliged to take permission but at the same time they are required to inform their wives. undoubtedly this is a case of the shaytaan making following one's whims and does that mean she would be cursed all night. The truth is that men and women are different, so the sooner you can move on from that the better. we commited mistakes..i am asking allah to forgive everythingis wat he doing is right in islam?? Allah created men and women to be each others companions not competitors. Unfortunately, so many men (most traditional men, not truly religious men) use this as an excuse to be philanderers. Polygamy is a difficult situation to address. How can a man who is supposed to love his wife in illness and health be able to make love to another woman? Yes, your husband has to take permission from you to marry another woman. But sisters. Well done. This is an old post, I am not sure what is your situation now. what is his greatest dream, namely the destruction of a stable, believing This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. Even ALLAH Dont force for Pray. Thats what life is. It is possible that your husband was pressured by his parents to marry. You truly believe your superior and have more rights? So what happens when he is getting the respect, loyalty and physical attention from his wife and still seeking for wife no 2? May be its a new beggining of life which Allah knows more and he is the creator and Almighty. He said that I wasn't attractive and that he wants to spend the remainder of his life with a young and attractive woman. to Allaah for this great blessing and strive to preserve it and the family Truly jealousy is what Allah loves and some whom He hates, his jealousy is al-ghirah (jealousy) for evil, his envied jealousy is jealous (things) that are not evil.(HR an-Nasai and Ibn Hibban), 15. Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. Dear Paula! And seek only to please Allah subhana watala. The words reverberated through my brain. When I thought that life would last forever and that nothing will ever change. lover to pray istikhaarah, because istikhaarah is only prescribed in cases Jazakumullahi Khairan. Therefore not expecting her if she was unwell. wife). Sister, I would be careful about saying that multiple marriages disgust you. refrained from establishing a haraam relationship even though there is a something permissible, so she should not object to it. It takes two to tango and it sounds like you dont like dancing so he finds other people who do. And my parents wont allow me to to it until I atleast pass the age of 22but being that I am a hormonal mess, I have to admit that as a female that I have desires that I would love to fulfill with my future husbandhowever that is not a reality for me. You are certainly rare. Is Misuse of Polygamy the Main Cause for Divorce? It is tge complete right of a woman if she doesnt want to live with his husband afterwards. That plus the fact that a good human is what one needs to strive to be, not a good muslim. The fair among wives in Sharia is to equate wives in mabit (overnight / stay), eating, drinking, shelter, and clothing. (Raddul Mukhtar, Ibn Abidin, 3/378), Being fair is not easy. Just like if a woman wants a man to love her, she needs to figure out how to show respect even when she doesnt respect him, and figure out how to be with him at night even when shes not feeling attracted to him, just like this, if a man wants his woman to respect him, then he needs to figure out how to talk to her and show his emotions instead of hiding behind the all-too-easy Argh, Im a man, talking is too hard for me screen. sister Fatima, May ALLAH forgive you. The purpose behind multiplr marriages was to help and sehlter war victims or widows. nobody is forcing anyone luv. Judge by what is right according to Quran and you will see how Allah subhanahu wa taala will sent double fold of blessings your way.. Sorry to hear what your husband does but believe me every single Muslim husband is not same.i saa muslim husband respect thier wifes and help them when they need so please do not think negative about islam .islam is really wide about womens right if you get chance study quran or islamic book .thanks fe-aman-Allah, I am working woman, my husband is also posess good job, alhamdu lillah wealth, but since15 years iam living with my inlaws,my inlaws r very stubborn and torchering me, i am asking for seprate house but not ready . These cookies will be stored in your browser only with your consent. I feel that he is not having any love for me. If the conditions for a second marriage are right according to the Shari`ah, he can legally go ahead and marry. .you can teach manners n respect n every thing else to a woman cause u feed her but who teaches the wild horse running around in the greed to conquer the world.my ears are sick n tiered of listening to the word peer pressures.exposer n all that crap.by God theres a thing called shaitan n we all have to fight it. Rather, He commands that they dwell with each other in tranquility and be a garment for one another. He is ignoring me. we have to do so. New York alone has one million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. They was ringing me to amenice me to leave him. He phoned me a few days later telling me that his wife is having a hard time accepting it but that she is willing to meet me. 4. Seriously? patient and the doers of good. 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